My Ultimate Goal & Purpose is to Help Eliminate
The Grim Scourge of Depression from the World
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My Story: Moving out of the darkness and into the light.
Depression killed my father. After being tortured for most of his life by this insidious affliction including three nervous breakdowns, hospitalizations, shock treatments and prolonged periods of inactivity marked by a disturbing dulling of the senses, he finally had enough. I watched helplessly as the last episode took its fatal toll on an otherwise physically healthy and spirited man of 83.
I have suffered most of my life as well. Even though what I had is called low grade depression, and my father had a much more severe case, I did not even know what it was that I was experiencing until I heard the symptoms described on television as a feeling of helplessness and hopelessness, and said to myself “Oh, is that what I have!” Unfortunately, as I was to find out, identifying it and conquering it were two very different things.
The insidious nature of depression is what has fooled most of the members of the medical and psychotherapeutic community. It seems to often just to be there without warning, like a light that automatically goes on when you enter a room. So the problem with curing depression has dealt mostly with getting out of it once you are in it, ways of not feeling the helplessness and hopelessness and using medication in an effort to curb it's tenacious grasp. In other words depression is treated like a mood disorder, but it is, unfortunately, far more complicated than that.
Until now, to my knowledge, very few have figured out how to stop it from being triggered when they feel helpless and hopeless except by being filled with drugs which may have dangerous and unpleasant side effects. Please note that my purpose here is not to argue the merits of taking medication to control depression, that is between the sufferer and his or her physician, my purpose is to shed some light on how and why many people go from feeling helpless and hopeless and then seemingly automatically into a depressive state and how this vicious cycle can be ended and how one can stop the process from ever occurring again.
The reason we often slip so easily into depression without apparently making a conscious decision is because it has become a habit that is triggered whenever we dwell on dark, painful, or unhappy thoughts, at least for those who suffer. So since it is partly based on a habit, it often just seems to happen automatically. The reason it seems to come spontaneously is that our mind considers it to be a kind of coping mechanism with the payoff being the best excuse in the world to avoid doing anything. The problem is though, you feel like dying and all of your ambition is gone, and in general you feel like crap and worse! All in all, it is a lousy way to go through life and especially to deal with life's issues and problems.
The reason I am familiar with the way depression comes and goes is because of my personal experience when I suffered from it. In fact, the morning I found the initial key to ending my suffering I was pondering how one could wake up depressed before the day even started. This led me to the thought that it must be an habitual way of thinking and functioning and indeed if it were a habit then it could be changed. That turned out to be my eureka moment! So I just made a decision to change that habit and my apparent depressive state just disappeared, just like that! Other steps were necessary to complete the process of thoroughly healing and ending my depression but it was a hell of a start which led me to an understanding of the insidious nature of this hideously consumptive and ruinous affliction.
What I discovered after searching for nearly twenty years for the answer is that it was right there all the time only I was looking in the wrong place. It was like looking for a pair of glasses that are right there on your head, you can't see them because they are too close and you are looking out instead of in at yourself. After I found the switch to turn it off I worked through my Emotional Healing practice to help others to do the same. So now you have no excuses to delay using the process, but only if you really want to, being halfhearted about it will not work. The choice is yours to either continue to suffer or to live the remainder of your time here on earth in the light instead of the darkness that is depression.